I have a friend, who is in an unhappy marriage. I have another friend who had a marriage that failed. I have people around me who are just not happy. I should say that there are some couples that are happy. One way in Korea that I can see a couple investing in each other is if they spent time together without the kids. You can see this in shopping centers, and restaurants. In parks you can see older couples walking hand in hand without the little ones in tow.
However, most parents will say: "After getting married, I must spend all of my time taking care of my kids". Usually women say this, men due to work they say something along the lines of needing to work hard and make money. That means: women 95% focus on their kids, while men 95% focus on work (that includes a number of "activities" that are work related).
So when people see me laughing with my wife of 15 years, they are shocked. They don't seem to remember the fun they had when they were newly married. When after work they would spend time just being together. Sharing and exploring each others hobbies, or venturing out into areas of new interests. This is not to say that Americans, or Indians do it better. I feel that the same thing happens only slightly different due to cultural differences.
When I was India I was proud of my brother and sister in law who would take regular excursions with out the little one. It builds couples up. There is no need to feel guilty. My boys have even told us they are happy when they see us having a good time together.
People WAKE UP, happy couples = happy families! Stop wasting time following worldly trends, and look at the person you married. Become one flesh! You will have a great time!
/tata
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